“The secret of happiness is knowing that there are some things you can control and some things you cannot.” – Epictetus
Letting go of what is outside our control doesn’t equate apathy or ignorance. Feeling our emotions in their raw tantrum is the only way to, later on, release the avalanche of regret, doubt, fear, rejection, betrayal, and loneliness. Letting go of accusations, victimization, and self-pity doesn’t mean we ignore our emotions. It means we are not being manipulated by the illusion of being purposely wronged or mistreated. As the saying goes, Life doesn‘t happen to you, it happens for you. All wounds are teachers. And the best ones.
But sometimes we forget that with our thoughts we attract everything that happens to us. And instead get trapped in a perpetual and draining self-induced feeling of separation, martyrdom, and injustice. We start blaming the situation instead of looking within to find what we must change to stop creating the same reality over and over again: of feeling
You probably feel a sense of repulsion just from reading the listed qualifiers, due to their negative vibrational frequency. Yet, sometimes we subconsciously repeat them to ourselves – every time when Life sends us a challenge or tests our reaction to events that are outside of our control. No wonder we keep repeating the same patterns of behavior that “prove” our limitations to be true instead of consciously releasing those limiting beliefs from our cellular memory. Most of us want a thriving relationship, loving family environment, a fulfilling career and on overall prosperity. However, we most likely will continuously struggle to create our best life (and keep the affluence flowing) if there is a hidden blockage in our subconscious mind that doesn’t allow us to believe that we are capable and deserving of happiness, success and unconditional love.
Knowing that we are always protected by our higher self, and our higher purpose in this life is not the same as actually believing it. Belief requires surrender and a conscious release from subconscious blockages that trigger the doubts and fears we experience when life events and people don’t meet our expectations. Yet, it`s never them that fail us. What we choose to believe is what manifests for us. Believing that everything and everyone enters our life at the perfect time and place saves us a lot of worrying for the things and people who exit it, or come to us in a later time and phase of our growth.
Knowing that you are not in control of other people but are in control of your own mind and emotional body will forever liberate you from the chains of attachment to the past.
Whatever that has happened or is happening to you is a result of the past. And even if you can`t change it, you can change how you see it (and how you see yourself). I lovingly ask you to start this practice today and do it every day for the next twenty-one days.
Now please take your journal and begin writing down all of the affirmations I wrote down for you, as you can add your own and adapt them to your own language. Please note that is very important to say them in present tense and to keep them action-oriented.
Afterwards, please free-write about the emotions this practice is about to invoke in you and close the practice with the mantra: “I choose to allow those affirmations to work for me and to guide me towards happiness and self-acceptance.“
“Today, I lovingly release the pattern in me that…*”
(*for example: the pattern in me that doesn’t allow to be loved/the pattern in me that attracts toxic partners/ the pattern in me that is afraid of success/the pattern in me that repeats the behavior of my parents/the pattern in me that procrastinates/the pattern in me that attracts scarcity/the pattern in me that is always late/unmotivated/jealous…etc.)
“Today, I accept myself as I am.”
“Today, I move forward and let go of the past.”
“Today, I choose to change and forgive myself and others”
“Today, I lovingly release all negative feelings from my mind and body.”
“Today, I choose to feel better about myself and everything that happens to me.”
“Today, I release all limiting beliefs that hinder my happiness.”
“Today, I choose to feel complete, whole and guided.”
“Today, I choose to treat everybody with compassion and kindness, including myself.”
“Today, I choose to speak up and express my needs with love”
“Today, I choose to be liberated from any blockages or fears that hold me back.”
“Today, I choose to be calm and feel supported in everything that happens.”
“Today, I invite love to find me, and I stop looking for it elsewhere. It is already in me.”
If you would like to inquire more about this practice and learn how to create your own affirmations depending on a life event/or trait you want to work on, please send me an email.
With Love and Care,
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