Those words of eternal wisdom are credited to Aristotle who spent his lifetime pondering upon the variables that can create a better structure for a thriving society. One of the postulates for a harmonious life, according to his teachings, is one`s conscious liberation from dependence on other people’ thoughts and opinions.
Criticism and judgment are usually co-dependent. When we get criticized we tend to judge back and get defensive. Conversely, when criticizing others (in a non-constructive manner) we project our own inner judgment and insecurities.
We are going to receive criticism no matter what we do, or not do.
The only leverage we have to disallow it to affect us is our own self-perception. The way we see ourselves is mediated through the energy we project to others. If we have healthy self-esteem and empathy for the people who don’t agree with us this gets emanated through our body language and poise. But if we lack the confidence to stand up for our choices and decisions we start to become fickle and too prone for self-doubt and uncertainty. Ironically, when we meet criticism with defensiveness and reciprocal judgment we are mirroring the same energetic frequency we are trying to avoid.
Ultimately, it is our ego that simulates the fear of separation from the collective consciousness. Therefore, what you think of yourself is vibrating in the energy you project to others. If you are confident in your skin and firm in your actions you start to attract more people who support you on your path than those who don`t. Others` judgment and criticism is a reflection of their own struggles and insecurities. Judgment in itself clouds compassion (for ourselves and for others) and creates a false separation between the ego and the compassion of our heart center.
We often judge what we don’t understand.
We often judge those who have judged us for judging them.
We often judge ourselves for holding judgments around our insecurities.
We often judge situations that test our patience.
We often judge those who are exactly like us.
We can’t stop judgment from entering our minds but we can monitor and align it to a place of understanding, tolerance, and respect for the others` point of view. Even in the situations where their opinion is exhibited through a lens of harsh criticism or unjustified scorn and denigration. Because it has nothing to do with us. *Unless it is well-meant advice constructively pointing to areas of our life that we can/and should improve.
Knowing your truth and purpose will not prevent criticism from coming, but will shield you from absorbing it. Living life from a place of love and harmony creates the space we all need to honor our truth and not judge back those who don’t share it.
I would love to hear your comments: do you find yourself judging too much?; do you lose your ground when you face criticism?; did you find this article useful? Let me know!